He sees harmony and he tries to get

                            disharmony.

                        Can you see the devil laughing when

                            all the work promoting God's

                            kingdom stops because of

                            division?

                        One man lost his power with a person,

                            it can be anyone —

                            then he tried to make it up with another

                            person.

                        Some people in a marriage go along

living in harmony,

    giving and taking for a little while

    but then they feel they must be the 

    one on top of the ladder.

                        Other people live their whole life

                            rescuing others.

                        The person who is always rescued

                            has to have a problem so the other

                            can rescue them.

                        The rescuer can help create problems

                            so the other person needs help.

                        Some people that constantly try to rescue 

                            others are sick.

                        They act almost automatically to rescue.

                        They want to make others weaker —

                            they use the other as their victim

                            in need of rescue so they will

                            not lose their power over someone —

                        They want to have somebody

                            under them — they want that

                            feeling of being over others.

                        They act this way almost automatically.

                            The other cries and they come

                                and rescue.

                        Many times, if the other is joyful they

                            help to create trouble for the

                            person under them because they

                            want to rescue them. They don't

                            like the other person happy,

                            feeling content -

                            they want to rescue them,

                            they very often don't look

                            at their own problems.

                            They want to fix somebody else.

                        The person under is kept weak,

                            needy, by the rescuer

                            who wants to be on top of the ladder.

                        They very often want the person

                            underneath sad.

                        Some people spend their lives

                            rescuing others.

                        They look in a room and find

                            a victim.

                        Then many times they have one they

                            keep under their

                            thumb for a feeling of

                            power for themselves.

                        Some will let others alone for a

                            while — wooing them — like a

                            newly wed stage of a marriage — then

                            when the other trusts them

                            again — they move in with

                            their "power" tricks.

                        The abuse cycle is much like this —

                            the abuser has a victim —

                            they try keep the other person down —

                            they try to have power over them —

                            they may act nice for a while to

                                get the other to trust them

                                then the strike — they act very

                                abusively,

                                it can be in condemning

                                remarks, criticism,

                                physical, any form

                                of abuse

                                then the cycle repeats and repeats —

                        The person abused does not know, many times,

                            how to get out of this cycle —

                        the abuser will not stop the cycle —

                            they want that person under —

                            even if the law separates

                            the abuser and victim —

                            the abuser very often will

                            stalk the other because

                            of their own need to have the

                            victim dependent on them.

                        The abuser has a real abuse problem,

                            help is needed so they can

                            recognize their problem.
   

                        It is similar to the alcoholic —

                            the pattern repeats and repeats and

                            the enabler, usually a spouse

                            or partner enables the alcoholic

                            to continue their sick life.

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