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                June 16, 2016 

                In the Month of the Sacred Heart

                July 3, 1997

We were Created to Rest in God

R. Intimacy between two people is achieved by spending intimate time together. We are separate from one another in the beginning. There is the common bond from God that we are children of God. We are brothers and sisters in Him, but in the beginning, in a sense, we are separate in that we do not know one another.

    It takes time spent together to help an intimate relationship develop. It takes sharing and giving on the part of each person.

    Any relationship that is blessed by God is one that brings us closer to God. If a relationship divides me or another person from God it is not a good relationship.

    What is the measuring stick of a good relationship? It is based on genuine love that it helps one’s relationship with God and others reach a greater level of maturity.

    Our whole life is a journey into the Heart of Christ. It is a journey in which our heart should merge more and more with Him and in being one with Him we are led to the Father in the Holy Spirit. My life is spent in learning how to love more perfectly.

Excerpt from Response to God’s Love by Fr. Edward Carter, S.J.

... In reference to Christianity, God himself is the ultimate mystery. Radically, God is completely other and transcendent, hidden from man in his inner life, unless he chooses to reveal himself. Let us briefly look at this inner life of God.

    The Father, in a perfect act of self-expression, in a perfect act of knowing, generates his son. The Son, the Word, is, then, the immanent expression of God’s fullness, the reflection of the Father. Likewise, from all eternity, the Father and the Son bring forth the Holy Spirit in a perfect act of loving.

    At the destined moment in human history, God’s self-expression, the Word, immersed himself into man’s world. God’s inner self-expression now had also become God’s outer self-expression. Consequently, the mystery of God becomes the mystery of Christ. In Christ, God tells us about himself, about his inner life, about his plan of creation and redemption. He tells us how Father, Son, and Holy Spirit desire to dwell within us in the most intimate fashion, how they wish to share with us their own life through grace. All this he has accomplished and does accomplish through Christ. St. Paul tells us: “I became a minister of this Church through the commission God gave me to preach among you his word in its fullness, that mystery hidden from ages and generations past but now revealed to his holy ones. God has willed to make known to them the glory beyond price which this mystery brings to the Gentiles — the mystery of Christ in you, your hope of glory. This is the Christ we proclaim while we admonish all men and teach them in the full measure of wisdom, hoping to make every man complete in Christ” (Col 1:25-28). end of excerpt

R. Christ came and took on human form. He is the mediator between God and man. Jesus, the Almighty God, is a Divine Person with two natures: human and Divine. Jesus’ Heart was human.

    We are children of Adam and Eve. We have a wounded human nature. We have tendencies toward the deadly sins even after we are baptized.

    We share in the all-perfect love of God. God gives us a sharing in His life in baptism. We can go to the Heart of Jesus and dwell there. It is there God reveals Himself most intimately to us.

    How then can we, on earth, go into the all holy Heart of Christ? Only by entering through Mary’s Immaculate Heart. Can we sinners go deeply into His Heart?

    It is in His Heart we share His most intimate secrets, that we know Him and love Him most intimately.

    So He comes, the Sacred Heart of Jesus, and He points to His Heart. Mary comes, the Immaculate Heart of Mary, and points to her heart.

    The gateway to unity and intimacy with God is through the pure and Immaculate Heart of the Mother. What our heart craves and desires is intimacy with the all-perfect God.

    Like a magnet we are drawn to Him, but the devil tries to lure us away from that which we crave by immediate satisfactions and pleasure. These pleasures are only momentary.

    There are many kinds of “so called” love. True love is only that which gives greater union with the All-Perfect Lover, God, and greater love with persons that lead us closer to God.

    And, “so called” love that take us from God is not according to His will.

    So our magnetic attraction is to God. Our desire to be filled is only filled by God.

    We walk this barren land wanting to satisfy our craving for love and we are never filled. This will come in heaven - but in dwelling in His Heart here on earth we reach a level of peace and satisfaction of being in Him. We will not be complete until we rest in Him in heaven.

    The more we are one in Him, the more we are satisfied here below.

    The level of our intimacy with God for all eternity depends on our level of union, with Him, here below. God wants a spousal relationship with us!

    Today many do not have any relationship with Him. Some have a “far off” relationship with Him where they think He exists but is far away. Few of His precious souls have a deep personal relationship with God - a relationship in which He is closely united to them.

    This is how it will be in the new era: Man will be deeply united to the Heart of Christ. They will most intimately know and love God – Mary, being the gateway to this union; Jesus being the mediator to unite man in the most intimate love elationship with God.

    When we are intimately united to Jesus we become intimately united to the Father in the Holy Spirit.

    So I see that I am going deeper and deeper in the Heart of Christ the more I consecrate my heart to Mary. The greatest union usually is at Mass and in the reception of the Holy Eucharist.

    The more we go to Him in the Mass and give ourselves intimately to Him in the Mass, the more we are united to the all-perfect God.

    Think of two people who just met. Say this is a relationship that God wills. They are as two separate rooms. She has her private life; he has his private life. There is a common wall between them.

    They begin to interact. It doesn’t matter who opens up as long a they both join as in a covenant with each other of agreement when one or the other person opens up.

    If I want union with the other, I am compelled to share my love with you. I tell you. You agree. We move closer together. It is as if a little piece of the common wall is broken away. I am compelled to share my love with you. I tell you. You do not respond. We stay separate. It is painful for the one who opened up. They want to run away and feel they may never open up again!

    A person brings all the experiences of every love relationship to every new love relationship. There was love given by the parents during childhood - this is the most important. There is love between sisters and brothers, friends, relatives, people of the same sex, people of the opposite sex, husbands, children, etc. They are so many love relationships in our lives.

    The more we are wounded, the harder it is to open up and be rejected, we must be healed, see clearly.

    It is hard for a person that has been wounded, especially to open up in a love relationship, unless they are healed, if one is rejected by the other, they may close up and may never try again.

    It is easier for a person to open up and be rejected if they had healthy love relationships with their parents where the parents gave them unconditional love, where parents taught them giving and taking in relationships, respect for each other and genuine love of the other.

    Our whole life is truly a journey in all relationships to grow in more perfect love, love likened to the Persons of the Trinity.

    And so we must die to the imperfections to be more perfect lovers. But we cannot just be inactive to grow in a love relationship. The commandment says we must love God and love one another.

    We are social beings. We learn about love from loving God. We, also, learn about love of God from receiving love from those who most love like Him.

    Love is a theological virtue. God gives us grace to love and we cooperate with His grace. I received great love from Jesus in the Eucharist. I spent the most intimate time with my Divine lover and learned about love from the All-Perfect Lover, and I was immensely satisfied. But, He gave me another to love and as I grew in my love relationship with him, my love of the other became so much fuller. I learned about His love through the other.

    This is what married love should be - this constant merging into oneness between a man and a woman, but how - how, can they leave out the Almighty God? He is love. He makes the love real.

    Let us discuss the rooms again: Sometimes the person opens up and the other, although he loves the other, does not respond to the person opening up with sensitivity or love. They just fail to see the importance of that moment to the person who is opening up and respond with insensitivity.

    The emotion of the person opening up becomes so hurt from being rejected that responds with irrational behavior. When they wanted love so much, they (in their mind) received coldness or indifference. They interpret this as rejection and are immensely hurt. When wanting love and connection they were wounded, and if the person already had old wounds from other love relationships, they hurt so badly they cannot even talk to the person or look at that person in the eye, sometimes, they feel hurt from wounds of the past they project onto this situation.

    The person who failed to see the significance of this moment as a move toward greater intimacy wonders what happened and cannot even understand what is going on. This is why it is so important for men and women to share their feelings in writing.

    Men are different from women. God created them male and female. They become one as they learn to merge in their different roles, to love more intimately.

    Not communicating about feelings, has been the end of many love relationships. It is most essential to communicate about feelings. Sharing feelings are from the depth of the soul and are the determining factor in having intimate relationships.

    It is easy sometimes for men and women to share good feelings. One opens up; the other responds favorably (a piece of the wall is broken off) and they grow in greater intimacy. It is more difficult to share differences. In many marriages the inability to share any problems, or bad feelings lovingly is what breaks up the marriage. Relationships in marriage having problems need loving solutions.

    All people have differences. Intimacy happens when bad and good feelings are shared and some agreement is reached where the two can work through the feelings and still love.

    The inability to share bad feelings can destroy the marriage. For example: She does not understand how he can distance himself for a week sometimes, not allowing her to discuss the problem. They continue to make up even though she is hurt. They are at the point of quitting the relationship or continuing the relationship.

    It is their marriage - they work it out – (unsatisfactorily) and she puts the hurt feelings under the rug. They kiss and make up and vow never to have another problem.

    There are problems in life. There are differences between men and women.

    They feel it is very loving again - they are in love again because the pain was so bad they had to either end it (which neither wanted) or continue so they are both happy to be united for that is what they both wanted.

    A problem comes up - they cannot share it, their true feelings, which are painful (now more painful than before because of the previous wound) are not discussed again. The pain becomes so bad - the same problem: should we separate completely or should we continue. Problems need to be handled. Problems need to be handled in love and respect.

    We cannot share the feelings, but we continue with the wounds, vowing never ever to have another problem and only love.

    Love is learning to sacrifice – to give and take – to listen and work for God’s will.

    And what happens - another problem arises!

    The failure to communicate pushes one’s feelings after another under the rug. Now there is a whole wall of wounded marks on the hearts and although they love each other each problem becomes a new wound of immense pain because of the failure to communicate the past hurt feelings. Things are mounting.

    Both good and bad or hurt feelings must be discussed in order to grow in an intimate relationship.

    This is why there are so many divorces - because people lack the skills to share feelings.

    Men do not understand the feelings of women many times. That is why Marriage Encounter recommends that men and women write notes everyday sharing their feelings.

    They select a question about feelings and go to a separate place in the house and write for ten minutes. Then they unite and discuss for 10 minutes their feelings.

    This is a great key that has saved millions of marriages from divorce and has led them to deep intimate love.

    And so I go back to the room. When a husband and a wife share their feelings, when one opens up and the other responds and they share, the common wall that keeps them separate and then it begins to come down. Husbands and wives, children need to pray together.

    Loving is a theological virtue – this grace comes from God and people must pray for grace to love more like Christ and give their free will to loving – cooperating with this grace.

    They share more and more and the wall comes down more and more.

    It may seem as if a new wall comes down or the big opening between them may seem to close up.

    This is what is important to intimate relationships - a sharing of feelings, an agreement between each party.

    The response by the second person is as important as the initial remark of the first person that opened the conversation.

    It is recommended that married couples share their feelings daily and are in daily dialogue with one another. It is important not to skip a day. In order to have an intimate relationship with another it is essential that there is daily intimacy.

    This is how it is with Jesus. He has taken me into His room and shared Himself most intimately. It is in His Heart, especially in the Mass and when He gives Himself to me in the Eucharist that He reveals His most intimate love. It is then that He lets me intimately know Him. I know things about Him as a wife who intimately knows her husband, but it is so much greater with this All-Perfect Divine Love.

    I am being taken into a deeper chamber of His Heart in the red room at many Masses and I know Him more and more, more intimately and I love Him most intimately.

    That is why it is important for me to give myself to Him. He does not learn anything from me; He knows my love. But, all I have to do is give myself to Him and He opens up His Heart. I go in and He shares the most intimate secrets with me. It helps to write letters of intimacy to Jesus and read His letters back to us from God’s Blue Books. It helps my communication with God!